You feel the cold of steel against your wrists and hear the clicking sound as the handcuffs tighten around you, slowly. There’s a fist in your hair, holding you still, and then you feel yourself get yanked to your knees…
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9 Tips for Your First Time with an Escort
PLEASE NOTE: Escorting may not be legal where you live. Please familiarize yourself in the legalities so you are aware of your risks, especially post-FOSTA/SESTA. So you’ve decided to hire your first escort. Congratulations! There are so many reasons to…
To All My Cis Lovers
Do not treat me as if I am a novelty; your learning moment; the giver of unpaid educational labour My body was not built, carefully, purposefully, for you. My gender and expression belong to me alone When I remove my…
Buck Off: Burn Your Idols (And Your “Silicone Blends”)
A lot of folks have brought Buck Angel’s new product to my attention – the Buck Off, made by the manufacturer Perfect Fit. According to the product description, this is “the first product designed specifically for transmen to engage in…
You’re Invited to Bex’ Spanking Party!
Did you know that Bex is turning 25 soon? Because they are! They’ll be spending their birthday in Toronto and, because Kate is the best, they’re getting a birthday spanking party. How cool is that?! The party takes place this…
This is Not My Body
The artist I was dating asks how I would feel about still hooking up now that we aren’t together. I freeze, gaze darting away from his, as I attempt to find the words to convey my reaction. I don’t…
Measuring Your Value in a Capitalist Society
It’s time to job hunt again. I open a word document and start brainstorming potential jobs I’d want to do. Photography. Porn. Writing. Organizing. Attendant care. Mental health. The list goes on. Imposter syndrome talks me out of one, exhaustion…
10 Truths About Making Porn
Not too long ago, I celebrated my second anniversary of making porn and, in relation to that, I’d like to share ten things I’ve learned about the industry that the average person I speak to doesn’t realize. This list only…
My Highlights from #HaveDildosWillTravel
At the end of April, I went on a road trip with Girly Juice, Bex, and Caitlin. Because we’re sex bloggers, we created a hashtag for the trip to document our adventures, and set off on #HaveDildosWillTravel. The three of…
The Sex that Surprises You
There is something to be said about the ways in which two genderqueerdos move around and against each other and navigate sex that I have not seen anywhere else and gets me right in the feels each time. On my…