Monthly Spotlight

What is the Monthly Spotlight?

This feature that takes place on the first and third Monday of every month and is designed to highlight a blog, vlog, or podcast that is under a year old. There will occasionally be other folks featured here as well, such as porn companies or artists, but the main focus is to highlight new people within the sex education community. If you’d like to be featured, please reach out!

Previous Spotlights

  • Pillow Princess is a bisexual cis woman who is in a long-distance relationship with a pansexual cis woman and she focuses on toys for people with vulvas and their use primarily during sex rather than masturbation (though that’s covered too!), as well as how people with disabilities and/or chronic illnesses have sex. Having more sites feature accessible sex toys is really needed, and it’s a valuable resource to have! She is also European-based, and therefore the toys and companies she promotes are ones that are easier to access (without a huge mark-up) in Europe. You will also not find anything realistic on her site, even fantasy and/or animalistic.

  • Meet Kelvin Sparks, an intersex trans man who is a sex blogger, erotica writer, and toy reviewer based in the UK. He is bisexual and predominantly dates and/or fucks other trans folks, and has a wide-range of experiences from monogamy/non-monogamy, vanilla/kink, topping/bottoming, and more. He also has worked as a sex worker in the past, which I personally would love to hear more about because I have seen so few trans men talk about that before (other than myself)!

  • As you (hopefully) know, I’m all about diversity both within and without the sex blogging community, and I also love to celebrate the new folks who are doing great work. I am pleased to introduce you to Taryn, author of the wonderful blog Ace in the Hole, which was started in January of 2017! Taryn is an asexual, biromantic, white cis woman who writes about sex through the lens of asexuality – something you really don’t see very often. Her goal (as stated on her About page) is to “to provide more education around how asexuality can coexist with sex, dating, relationships, masturbating”, and she has compiled a great Asexuality Primer/FAQ page for you to peruse.

  • What do you get when you mix sex-positivity, enthusiastic consent, mental health, kink, and sexuality? Simple – you get Quinn Rhodes, the author behind On Queer Street!

  • Idols of Sheela is a sex ed site written by Lizxnn Cobalt Chrome. Lizxnn is many things; a first-aid instructor, a certified yoga teacher, and an adult sex educator; as well as a queer, non-binary artist and witch based out of New Orleans, Louisiana. She’s a kinky, polyamorous, and demi-sexual femme who is fascinated by “BDSM, relationship dynamics, and personal development in pleasure and awareness”. Her blog is a dedication to her path with sex and relationships, with a focus on the role that sex toys play.

  • The spotlight is a feature that takes place on the first and third Monday of every month and is designed to highlight a blog, vlog, or podcast that is under a year old. There will occasionally be other folks featured here as well, such as porn companies or artists, but the main focus is to

  • Insert Trans Here is a new blog (started in August, 2016) and run by a queer trans woman in the States. She wanted to find toys that worked with her body (both now and as her body changes through her transition) and found a lack of other trans women writing reviews. Like many of us in the industry, she therefore decided to start doing reviews of her own in order to help others in a similar position.

  • Felicity, the blogger behind Phallophile Reviews, started writing in May of 2017. For someone who has only been around for a few short months, she is really making an impression on me. The first piece that I read by her was on how dildos have made her better at handjobs, which includes a few beautifully composed grab-the-dildo pictures, an ode to foreskin (which obviously I’m all for), and a good joke about her ability to open a pickle jar. What more could you want?!

  • Like me, they have found that there aren’t as many transmasculine bloggers as they would like, thus part of why they decided the step in. Their About page states something that I have always found to be true as well (one of my own reasons to initially get into blogging):
    “Vulvas, especially clitorides, behave differently when exposed to testosterone, and there are specific ways that social pressures that interact with sex and gender in regards to transgender people. I feel like talking openly about these issues will encourage trans people, particularly transmasculine people in my case, to augment their sex lives and talk more openly about sex and sexuality.”

  • This is a blog that’s run by – you guessed it – Hermione Danger, a delightful dog lover, librarian, sports fan, and self-professed “Ravenpuff” (which is the cutest sounding house, lets be real). She’s a kinky submissive (mostly), rope bunny, and masochist who is monogamously partnered with a long distance dominant who goes by Swarley. As someone who also has a long distance dominant…this suuuuucks so much.