Things have been quiet on my end lately; both my phone and my laptop had to go to the shop (more than once) and I traveled a LOT between Baltimore, Saskatoon, Edmonton, and all my holiday trips, but they should…
Tag: sex work
Leave the Orgasms at the Office
You know the saying “do what you’ll love and you’ll never work a day in your life”? Well, if you’ve ever tried following that saying, you’ll know that, inevitably, that thing you love…becomes your work, it becomes something that you…
The Best Of: September + #SoSS #3
New month, new pagebuilder plugin (hopefully one that’s less glitchy), and a new layout for my monthly recaps! What do you think – tabs? I’m also debating an accordion layout. And yes, I know it isn’t Sept 29 anymore. I…
Healing from Trauma
TW description of sexual/assault, trauma, mental illness, self harm, intrusive thoughts, gay slurs, slurs toward sex workers, non self-inflicted cutting, death threats, nonconsensual age play, suicidal thoughts, suggested necrophilia, nude photos, photos of implied (but not actual) cutting I haven’t…
The Signing of FOSTA/SESTA
Hey all, it’s been a while. As you hopefully know – but if my facebook feed is any indication, you likely don’t – FOSTA/SESTA was signed yesterday in the US. This, combined with the CLOUD Act, is already resulting in…
October Spotlight: Dildo or DilDon’t
For those who don’t know Carly, AKA the Queen of Wands, she has been a sex educator at the Pleasure Chest on and off since 2010, and she now has a site of her own – complete with one of the absolute best titles in the industry, in my opinion! She describes herself on twitter as being a “Professional Pervert. Total Nerd. Sex Blogger. Queer, Poly, WOC. Just here glorifying obesity”, and that’s a pretty good summation of what you can expect to find on her site.
The Best Of: September
September was busy as hell for me, in a mostly-good way. Travel It started with an intense three weeks of travel, where I visited 10 cities, attended and/or participated in 5 conferences, ran/helped run three workshops/talks, and was the dungeon…
8 Stereotypes About Hiring an Escort
One of the things I hate about this industry in how full of misconceptions it is. Here are the 8 stereotypes that I hear the most often, and why I think they are not true! Curious what else I’ve written…
Pay For Your Porn!
Porn is fucking amazing. Like thousands of other folks, I have built a career around porn. I love filming it, performing in it, writing and talking and teaching about it, and I love watching it. Alone, with a partner, or…
On Anxiety, “Being Enough”, and Porn Production
The biggest piece of advice I have for anyone who wants to make porn but doesn’t feel ready is to simply do it. I know, easier said than done, but hear me out. When I started producing (and performing), I…