I’ve gone on record talking about how I’ve never wanted to have a penis, and I stand by that, I don’t. But I’m also pretty into watersports, and honestly my aim isn’t great. I’ve always hated those pee-in-a-cup tests because…
Category: Gender
What the Heck IS Gender Affirming, Anyway?!
The way people think about gender is SO weird. The way I think about gender, even my own, is confusing and strange. I began my transition about seven years ago – a lifetime for some, no time for others. I…
To All My Cis Lovers
Do not treat me as if I am a novelty; your learning moment; the giver of unpaid educational labour My body was not built, carefully, purposefully, for you. My gender and expression belong to me alone When I remove my…
This is Not My Body
The artist I was dating asks how I would feel about still hooking up now that we aren’t together. I freeze, gaze darting away from his, as I attempt to find the words to convey my reaction. I don’t…
The Sex that Surprises You
There is something to be said about the ways in which two genderqueerdos move around and against each other and navigate sex that I have not seen anywhere else and gets me right in the feels each time. On my…
A Winter Femme Guide
If you’re anything like me, winter makes you feel pretty crummy. Between the decrease in light; the lack of visible green, growing things; and spending less time outside and/or with friends, I go through a bit of a depressed period….