PLEASE NOTE: Escorting may not be legal where you live. Please familiarize yourself in the legalities so you are aware of your risks, especially post-FOSTA/SESTA.
So you’ve decided to hire your first escort. Congratulations! There are so many reasons to hire someone – you’ve already made your mind up and are now looking for someone to contact. Here are some tips to ensure you have a good experience.
Before Contacting Them:
- Familiarize yourself with the laws where you live.
- Figure out what your budget is.
It is considered polite to tip your escort, so keep this in mind when you make a budget. There are SPs with a wide range of rates, so keeping your budget in mind when you’re looking at ads will save everyone time. If your budget is $250, there’s no point messaging a provider who charges $350/hour! Treat this like any other service – you wouldn’t expect to barter with your hairdresser or waiter, so don’t barter with your escort, either. Some may offer discounts to regulars or a sliding scale for folks with disabilities or women and trans folk, but others won’t. Make sure to read their rates before contacting them.
- Know what you’re looking for and what their policies are.
Are you looking for someone who enjoys receiving anal or someone who will spank you? Great! There are plenty who are happy to do this. Check out their website or ad and try to figure out what they offer so you don’t waste everyone’s time asking for things they don’t do. If the SP has a website, do they have a policy page? Take a look at that (here’s mine, for example. NSFW link). If you contact me asking for half-hour sessions or bareback, I will assume that you either haven’t read my site or you’re specifically asking for things I don’t offer – while the first is okay, the second is not.
You don’t need to know everything, but having an overview is always best. In some places, it’s legal to advertise for time but not for sex. In those cases, service providers (SPs) may be unwilling to discuss the sex that you are interested in. In other places, outcalls and incalls have different legal statuses (respectively meaning the SP going to your location or them hosting you). Read up on FOSTA/SESTA. These are all important things to know in advance!
In your Correspondence and Session:
- Communication is important.
- Communication is so important.
While conversation is welcome, keep in mind that some things may be rude, prying, or things the SP is not comfortable talking about. This includes questions such as “what’s your real name”, “how many clients do you see a day/week/month“, “what’s your relationship status”, “what’s the best/worst thing that’s happened to you at work”, any assumptions about pimps, education/intelligence, drug use, or trauma, etc. Some providers may be comfortable bringing these topics up, but let them choose if/when they want to, and how they want to handle it! If you ask something the provider seems uncomfortable with, drop the issue. I can’t tell you how many times a client has asked me (mid-fuck) if I can still get pregnant – not only is this something I don’t want to talk about, but asking in that moment makes me worry if I’m at risk, and I’m not likely to want to book you again. Never, ever expect or ask for sex without a condom! This includes offering us more money in order to have it.
- Be on time.
If you’re going to be more than 5 minutes late, let the provider know. Understand that being early without warning isn’t good, either! If you’re late, don’t expect to get your session extended to be the whole time you booked. The provider may offer this, but they may have another booking/somewhere to go. Expect to have a shorter session and pay for the whole time.
- Reviews and cancellations.
Do not post a review without asking if the provider wants one. If they do, make sure to be honest, but don’t write erotica. There’s a difference between “they give great head” and going into detail about the specific technique. If you’re going to cancel, provide notice (12 hours if possible), or pay a cancellation fee.
- Be respectful.
This means having showered and brushed your teeth (30 minutes before the session to reduce STI risks), have your fingernails neatly trimmed. Say “please” and “thank you”, ask instead of demanding, don’t answer the door naked. Have condoms and lube on hand, and clean, body-safe toys if you’re supplying them. Be upfront about the money at the start of the session and don’t make us ask for it, please.
- Tips or gifts.
You don’t need to give a huge tip, but tipping is important to let the SP know that you enjoyed your time and even more important if you want to book again. If you’re not going to tip, consider giving a gift instead. If the provider has a website, it may list the gifts they like or a link to their wishlist (many providers use DeliveryCode). If not, you can either ask or provide a gift certificate to a place like Amazon where they can pick their own gift. Gifts and tips are optional, though they do a lot to warm the escort up to you and your session will be better for it! The gift doesn’t need to be completely for them, either – one of my clients bought my favourite lube to keep on hand at his place when I came over. This was something he bought for himself, but it showed me that he cared about my pleasure and health, and that he respected me. This is great!
Has the SP used acronyms like BBBJ, CIM, Greek, etc or have they used the actual words? Respond in kind! Be polite, to the point, and direct. No provider wants to feel as if they’re prying information out of you. Be upfront with your name and references, if requested. Not all providers require this information, but when they do it’s to ensure everyone’s safety. Remember that all correspondence you have with the provider will impact their first impression of you. The easier you make the booking, the happier they’ll be to see you!
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